Comments on: Does fear keep you from living?

By: Fear, the Ultimate Foe of Creativity and Success

Fear, the Ultimate Foe of Creativity and Success — Wed, 26 Aug 2009 07:05:28 +0000

[...] lived much of my life in fear. I’ve written about some it before, but not really in the area of creativity or [...]

By: Changes : Blog to Fit

Changes : Blog to Fit — Mon, 03 Aug 2009 06:17:16 +0000

[...] recently wrote about a post about fear over at Blogger Dad, asking if fear is keeping you from living? A reader, Trina, responded to the [...]

By: Kristin T. (@kt_writes)

Kristin T. (@kt_writes) — Tue, 21 Jul 2009 17:47:28 +0000

This is a great post—I’m glad you strayed from your usual style (which I love, btw) to explore one of my favorite topics.

I often regret the things I didn’t do, particularly during college, because of fear (like spend a semester abroad). It took some unexpected and rather messy life events as an adult to push me beyond that pattern, and I’m so grateful to mostly find myself leaning toward openness and adventure rather than fear these days.

The one area I still struggle with, in terms of letting fear control me, is parenting. My intense love for my daughters sometimes manifests itself in fear. That kind of huge love can be scary, and opens up so many frightening possibilities, doesn’t it? Something to continue working through. Thanks for the insight and further inspiration.
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By: Chris@Maugeritaville

Chris@Maugeritaville — Tue, 21 Jul 2009 16:50:10 +0000

Great job, as usual. You have an award waiting for you at my place if you’d like to swing by.
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By: Rob O.

Rob O. — Tue, 21 Jul 2009 13:04:27 +0000

I pride myself in having an adventurous spirit, but at the same time, I’ll admit that I do sometimes let silly little fears limit me. I’m a big guy and your beach example is especially familiar. I tend to shy away from situations where’d I’d have to shed my shirt because I’m very self-conscious about my appearance. And I know that this does limit me sometimes. I’m working on it…
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By: NaysWay

NaysWay — Tue, 21 Jul 2009 02:13:37 +0000

Who are you and how did you find my site?! Kidding. No, but seriously. Your one post sums up my entire site and the battle I’ve faced my entire life. Fear is the biggest mind trick and grandest hurdle to overcome. I am with you, my friend.

By: Blogger Dad

Blogger Dad — Tue, 21 Jul 2009 02:01:06 +0000

Orchid 64 – I missed your comment earlier. As I said in a prior post, I don’t recall saying that exact comment, though in more than 20 years of knowing Lisa, who knows? While the comment could have been a reflection on my own experience of only attracting a certain type of person when I was feeling down on my weight, there is some truth to the statement.

Think about it. Typically, people who do not take care of themselves do not have high self esteem. I am not lumping ALL fat people into this category of not taking care of themselves, though society will do that, anyway. However, a large portion of people who are overweight also have low self esteem and DO NOT feel good about themselves.

In the experience of women I’ve known, and most of my friends are women, the heavier women who have low self esteem seem to attract guys with low self esteem. Now there are two kinds of guys like this. There are those like me, who are just trying to better themselves and weren’t able to pull it all together. Then there’s the OTHER kind. The ones who have severe control issues and look for someone they can easily manipulate or abuse mentally or physically. These men are like predators in their ability to pick out the weakest willed women. I’ve seen it played out hundreds of time.

My advice to anyone, men or women, would be to treat yourself with respect and DEMAND that same level of respect from anyone who dates you.

Trina – Congrats!

janice – Shh, don’t tell Friar.

By: Trina

Trina — Tue, 21 Jul 2009 01:14:03 +0000

you may have seen my tweets post my response here. I did get pissed today. I have been pondering my sitch for a loooonnnnnnnnng time. It’s time to stop pondering. I do plan to keep this post and its thoughts handy to stay pissed long enough to keep doing something, anything so I can stop modifying my life…. thanks.

By: Orchid64

Orchid64 — Tue, 21 Jul 2009 01:06:17 +0000

Besides being untrue, this is a poisonous thing to think and to say to someone. People with low self-esteem do no marry overweight people. The very assertion of such is a reflection of the fact that a fat person does not value himself and therefore projects that feeling on to others. They’ve completely bought into the idea that your weight reflects your value in society. It doesn’t, but only as long as people reject that notion. I encourage you to reject it.

People who need to marry an attractive person have greater esteem issues than a person who’d opt for an overweight mate. They worry more about what others think and how their mate’s appearance reflects on them. Someone who is thin and will marry an overweight person has far greater ego integrity than someone who insists on a beautiful partner because that person doesn’t care what others think as much as they care about the person they are choosing to spend the rest of their lives with.
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By: janice

janice — Mon, 20 Jul 2009 21:54:42 +0000

I enjoyed this post as much as the laugh out loud funny ones, and I love the tagline; we all know you’re a soppy old thing
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