Comments on: NO!

By: UrbanVox

UrbanVox — Wed, 03 Dec 2008 17:19:16 +0000

that is THE hardest bit!!!

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By: Matthew Dryden

Matthew Dryden — Tue, 02 Dec 2008 18:53:17 +0000

I still remember the look on my son's face when I said no the first time. Same feeling. Exact same feeling. Matthew Drydens last blog post..You Hate Me (Because I Failed)

By: Betsy

Betsy — Tue, 02 Dec 2008 02:33:42 +0000

You gotta go with what works. I remember all the re-directive advice given to me when our son suddenly turned into a repetitive biter. Do this, do that, whatever you do, don’t bite him back. We lived this way for about six months until I’d finally had it and bit him on the arm (not hard, of course). He never bit again. What can I say, I’m a slow learner.

Discipline is so critical, and teaching kids to be self-disciplined is so hard. That’s why so many parents give up on it. Our society is the worse for it, too. This won’t be the first time your heart breaks with him, so be thankful it does. You’d be such a lout if not.

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By: Patricia

Patricia — Mon, 01 Dec 2008 22:07:42 +0000

It does not get any easier, we are still saying NO to our 22 year old but it is a lesson that both parents and child need to learn. I have a 60 year old friend who opens everyone's Christmas gifts and can't stand to wait. Her family is exhausted with trying to hide everything and be prepared. It ruins their whole family gathering...They tried a sedative last year that did not work she was just slower....She is a school teacher, but never learned to wait for anything for herself...her children are growing up equally undisciplined....I wish you well....and Writer Dad is right when his daughter is on restriction they all are! Patricias last blog post..Chug, Chug, Toot, Toot

By: Jamie Simmerman

Jamie Simmerman — Mon, 01 Dec 2008 16:52:05 +0000

Ah, my heart breaks for you Dave. We've all been there. Sometimes you have to give up the good to go for the best. Imagine what he'd be like if you never disciplined him! (And if you need an example, I have friends with kids who are heathens from lack of discipline.) Hang in there. Jamie Simmermans last blog post..Blog Nirvana: Courage, Bugs, and Bite Size Nuggets

By: Sal

Sal — Mon, 01 Dec 2008 16:04:35 +0000

It breaks my heart every time my daughter does something worthy of discipline. I feel like I never get through to her (she is testing her boundaries right now) and a few minutes later she will do it again. If you didn't know already, she has a very strong will, similar to that of a bull in the anual running. I feel like either I am discipling all wrong or she is just one of those "bad" kids who will try and get away with anything and everything she can. I hope it is neither. Sals last blog post..Barter Day

By: Rosie : )

Rosie : ) — Mon, 01 Dec 2008 15:39:13 +0000

It is so hard when your child has to be told :”No”. It hurts more when they are so young. Some kids understand right away by a softer no, but when it is important, you must use your Mom/Dad voice for them to understand. It will break your heart everytime.

As many parents do, we try to not just use the word “no”, but other things like “Don’t touch that”,”No biting”,”no hitting”,”stop”,etc … {all in French at our house though ~lol}. This gives kids even more vocabulary and it shows you just how much they are capable of understanding. I also like the fact that we reserve the mighty “NO” for important things, like not running across the road, as you mentioned.

Our oldest is just hitting teenage years, and it sometimes hurts to say no for certain things. If there is a movie that *all* her friends have seen, and I’m just *that mean Mom* that won’t let her go… it still hurts. But I think it’s up to the parents to decide for their child and not let peer pressure/societal pressure to lead them. It still tough.

Since we have 7 children in every different spectrum from babyhood, todderhood, childhood and beginning teenagehood, it can be a challenge to remember what to restrict at what age. But, we do our best as parents as hope they turn out alright.

Loving our kids is the most important factor I think, and you sound as if you have that area covered very well with your son!

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By: Writer Dad

Writer Dad — Mon, 01 Dec 2008 14:59:46 +0000

"God, to think that everything I do now, good or bad, could affect him his whole life - that’s a lot to live up to." TRUE THAT! I'd like to tell you it gets easier, but it doesn't. : > ) Mia spent her last minutes of the holiday weekend on restriction for her attitude. When she's on restriction so are we. Grrr. Writer Dads last blog post..Writer Dad in Rough Draft

By: Tara

Tara — Mon, 01 Dec 2008 09:56:40 +0000

That really is the toughest part of parenting. You see that cute little face crumple and you just crumble. Shouting just didn't work for my son, who seems to be old beyond his years. If I sat down with him and explained why he shouldn't hit/bite/scream he would listen intently and then never do it again! Seriously, it was that easy with him. Then I had a daughter . . . Taras last blog post..Superman/supermum, same difference